我丈夫认为我是个傻瓜。我哭了，大多数星期五晚上大约在中部标准时间晚上8:55左右。我哭泣着喜悦的眼泪。我哭泣着爱的眼泪。我哭泣着承认和自豪的眼泪。我哭泣的美丽的眼泪–从内到外。我哭是因为我在看TLC’s What Not to Wear.
It is one of my favorite shows and it recently celebrated its 250th episode. As often as I can, I force my husband to sit through the show on a Friday night; although I think he actually enjoys it more than he will admit. Recently I was thrilled to 看到 that the show is also on around lunchtime so I will catch it every so often when I am able to take a lunch break at home.
After watching an episode recently, it really sunk in why I truly love the show. It is not just because of the witty banter and great advice from Clinton and Stacy or because it is moving to 看到 the transformation these brave women go through in just a short few days. But it is because I realized these style mavens use the same process I do with my clients. In three steps of awareness, release, and acceptance whether on 薄层色谱 or in my office, people can make major changes in their lives.
第一步是要意识到’s actions, reactions, and choices are affecting their lives. Some people are aware of their choices and just need help making better ones. But some people are not consciously aware of their choices or the need to make new ones. These individuals really benefit from the secret footage and input from their friends and family to finally take a realistic look at the image they are projecting. Sometimes an outside perspective can help us 看到 things we would not uncover on our own.
意识过程的一部分是要意识到现实与感知。当涉及到衣服和身体时，这是非常公然的。如此之多的妇女对自己和身体的看法都扭曲了。他们“see” their body parts as bigger, smaller, longer, or shorter than they really are. I remember one episode involving a woman who had lost a significant amount of weight, but she was unable to 看到 herself in her new body. The style duo brilliantly had her draw her perception of her shape full-size on a wall. Then Clinton traced her actual body on the same wall. There were inches of difference between her perception and the reality of her shape. This visualization was exactly what she needed to begin chipping away at her misperception. Often I will do the same with my clients. We question the misperceptions in their thoughts and help them to realize that what they 相信 是真的可能不是。
Some women on the show, often overworked mothers, need to learn to love and care for themselves again or sometimes for the very first time. They need to release the view that they are not important. They need to release the excuse that they do not have enough time. Basically these women have minimized themselves and their role in the world. It is amazing to 看到 how putting on strong, flattering clothing can help them 看到 themselves as significant again.
女性不穿衣服的另一类是因为害怕被误解而以某种方式穿衣的女人。 观看视频 关于所谓的强硬小鸡。她害怕拥抱自己的女性气质，因为她相信自己会“感到虚弱和脆弱。” It is amazing to 看到 how her attitude shifts from defensive and aggressive at the beginning of the show to confident and powerful at the end.